Adam Grabsch and Katrina Christian (Queens Girl Guide Award recipient) are planning to volunteer in Cambodia with Reach Out Volunteers. They will spend the first week in a local village, working with its elders to improve the village facilities. They will also contribute to life enhancing skills…
I wanna do this.
This is so important!
I never know what to ask and end up looking like a fool cause I don’t have a question prepared.
Don’t be me.
DAMN this is good info
A television pilot presentation about what it’s like to fall in love in this crazy world we live in now. The series is a semi-autobiographical comedy about three brothers, two straight, one gay, each dealing with modern-day issues in Los Angeles while trying to find love, but screwing shit up along the way.
- How-to Choose
- How-to Pair w/Food
- Using The Right Glass Shows You Have Class
- Basic Types of Wine
- Expanded typing of Wines
- What Temp For EachType of Wine
- Knowing Your Wine Colors
- Wine Type Descriptions
- Caloric Comparison vs. Beer
A friend once told me (while discussing wines & spirits) to learn about coffees too… " Because you’ll eventually need them, if / when you enjoy too much good spirits."
Girls who don’t receive romantic/sexual attention from boys blame themselves
Boys who don’t receive romantic/sexual attention from girls blame girls
all the guys i know that are single blame themselves
This is a pretty good example of how feminist commentators like movethefuckoverbro get it wrong when comparing female and male behavior and social standing. They find examples of a supposedly harmful act typically committed by men but not by women (or an example of a disadvantage suffered by women but not by men), and use that to support their steadfast argument that men are oppressive, entitled, privileged, etc. And they see no reason, or simply refuse, to look for or acknowledge different opposing examples, which would require them to take a wider view at the sexes.
Let’s forget for a moment that the pelvis is one of the most sexually dimorphic structures in the human body, and that this is a very likely reason between the difference in sitting posture between men and women. Take a look at the four people sitting with their legs crossed in this photo, and how far their feet protrude into the aisle, narrowing it by half. All of four of the people who are sitting in this fashion are women, and in my experience with trains and buses it is quite common to encounter a gauntlet of women’s feet when trying to pass through the aisle.
Clearly, there’s more than one way to take up more space in public transport. While men tend to take up more space by spreading their legs, women, in turn, take up more space by sitting cross-legged, which thrusts their foot into the aisle. And if you ignore one of these scenarios, you may very well come to the conclusion that one of the sexes doesn’t like to share.
"can men and women really be just friends??" straight people are so weird
It is a fact that bisexuals can’t make friends. There is only prey.
*makes raptor noises*
Read it and weep, snowflakes.
Oh my god, this is perfect.
For the dearies who didn’t want to, or didn’t have time to research, here’s a brief summary:
From a Q&A with one of the researchers, we learnt that activists (like feminists) “were perceived as militant, aggressive, forceful, argumentative and abrasive.”
By aggressively promoting change and advocating unconventional practices, activists become associated with hostile militancy and unconventionality or eccentricity.
In one study, 17 male and 45 female undergraduate students were randomly assigned to read a profile about a student who was a “typical” feminist (described as conforming to the stereotypes), an “atypical” feminist (described as not conforming to the stereotypes) or someone whose commitment to feminism was not described. All participants then rated the extent to which the stereotypical traits belonged to character they read about, as well as if they were interested in being associated with the character.
The most common traits for “typical feminists” included “man-hating”, “eccentric”, “militant” and “unhygienic”.
—-Aversion to Association—-
Another study, featuring 17 male and 45 female undergraduates, confirmed the pervasiveness of those stereotypes. It further found participants were less interested in befriending activists who participated in stereotypical behavior (such as staging protest rallies), but could easily envision hanging out with those who use “nonabrasive and mainstream methods” such as raising money or organizing social events.
“We found that participants were less motivated to adopt pro-gender equality behaviours when the article was ostensibly delivered by the ‘typical’ feminist rather than by one of the other message sources,” says Bashir.
The results of three additional studies suggested this aversion to perceived stereotypical behavior impacts people’s behavior. They don’t want other people to view them in the same negative view and consequently be attributed with commonly perceived negative stereotypes.
Due to these negative stereotypes, people are reluctant to adopt the behaviours that these movements (like feminism) promote.
“Furthermore, this tendency to associate activists with negative stereotypes and perceive them as people with whom it would be unpleasant to affiliate reduces individuals’ motivation to adopt the pro-change behaviors that activists advocate.”
In contrast, the studies also showed that people are more receptive of the message when it comes from an individual who does not conform to these negative stereotypes.
What does this mean? Are all activists this way?
“It’s important to keep in mind that this research is focused on how activists are perceived by others, rather than how they actually are,” Bashir says. “The militant and eccentric characteristics do not necessarily describe the actual personality traits possessed by activists.”
In conclusion, negative stereotypes are limiting the influence of what are supposed to be progressive and benign social movements.
So how do we deal with the problem of negative stereotypes?
The researchers suggest that the general public “may be more receptive to advocates who defy stereotypes by coming across as pleasant and approachable.”
But there is some value to activists in considering that people do perceive them negatively and maybe they do need to tweak their strategy a bit to take into consideration the way they’re coming across to people.
This is a feminist’s response to the research, in which she actively encourages the reader to completely disregard the stereotypes, ignoring the harm the stereotypes are inflicting to their own cause, and the advice given by the researchers (to be more considerate). Feminists should simply ‘fight back’ instead (thereby inadvertently reinforcing those negative stereotypes). Her reasoning being that it’s the privileged people who are censoring activists and smearing the name of feminism.
The solution to that, Mr. Jacobs, isn’t to turn around and waggle fingers at the feminists for being insufficiently smiley (and in doing so to reinforce the false assumption that feminists are… what was the word? “Overwhelmingly negative”?). The solution is to instead push back against the people trying to use their privilege to control the conversation; to push back against the many, many people who use their political, media, and social power to smear the name of feminism in order to intimidate people from claiming that term for themselves.
Not only is she promoting actions that would consequently reinforce the stereotypes she’s offended about, but she is blatantly refusing to acknowledge the militant feminists that exist in great numbers in her movement, and are considerably the most vocal group.
So I implore you, dear keyboard warrior feminists, to realize that saying this
and doing this
is not helping your cause at all.
All you’re doing is proving the negative stereotypes to be true.
Don’t blame The Patriarchy™ if ever your movement ends up in flames incited by your own reckless actions.
And special thanks to anti-feminism-pro-equality, from whom I stole a couple of screenshots. (Sorry! <3)